There's a saying that goes something like this: Don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option. It's great advice. Don't spend a lot of effort on someone that treats you as if they don't really care about you. That should be reserved for those that truly care about you and that you truly care about.
The problem for me is that I am not always sure which people are which in my life. Sometimes, I misinterpret someone's busy schedule or personal issues as them not caring about me. By the same token, at times, I am sure I do not treat everyone that I care about in a manner that shows that. By nature, I prefer directness from others. I would prefer if we had some sort of sign on our forehead that indicated who is truly a friend and who could give a rat's ass about you...and even just those who like you but really wouldn't miss you if you were gone.
As it is, I have a very difficult time separating my own feelings of inadequacy (which, let's face it, we all have on some level) from a genuine lack of interest by another party. And though I say I prefer directness, I am often fearful of directly confronting a person because if I am wrong, then I inadvertantly offend someone that I care about. So for now, I carry on and just wonder about some people. Perhaps I will work up the courage at some point to confront those that leave me wondering. Or perhaps that alone should tell me something. Either way, it's a constant struggle for me.
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